The movie "Bully" is being released tomorrow. Do you plan to see it? I intend to as soon as it comes near to me. If you see it, your comments and thoughts would greatly appreciated here.
http://movies.nytimes.com/2012/03/30/movies/bully-a-documentary-by-lee-hirsch.html
Showing posts with label empathy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label empathy. Show all posts
Thursday, March 29, 2012
Tuesday, February 28, 2012
Ohio School Shooting
In thinking about and praying for all those affected by this horrible tragedy, I am wondering why there are always conflicting reports. As usual there are the similar reports that the shooter was an outcast, dressed in goth style, and didn't have many friends.
The conflict that is present, which I seem to notice happens often when things like this happen, is that some are saying he was bullied and others are saying he was never bullied. I saw the same thing happening with Ruth Ann Payton, the 12 year old girl who killed herself two weeks ago.
Are others just not willing to admit there was bullying? Are they afraid of being bullied themselves if they speak up? Or do they just not want to get involved?
The school here in Chetek where Payton attended says they have things in place to prevent and report bullying. But as teachers and counselors were meeting with the kids after Payton's death no one was saying anything about bullying, therefore making the school feel that bullying was not an issue. I really don't like to accuse or suggest that the school officials were not telling the truth, but we all know that bullying goes on everywhere. What I don't understand is why reports coming from outside the perimeter of the school grounds say bullying was definitely a part of this girls decision to end her life at such a young age.
My heart goes out to the families in Ohio who are having to deal with children who were injured yesterday, it goes out to everyone having to understand their feelings and fears. It especially goes out to the family who lost a child. No parent should have to suffer that. And my heart goes out to the family of the shooter and him. Obviously this boy, this child, was hurting in some way to make him feel the need to hurt and kill other kids. I cannot pretend to know or understand why. But it breaks my heart.
What are your thoughts on this tragedy? What are your thoughts on why kids don't want to admit that bullying is occurring? Are we as parents and educators, pastors dropping the ball somewhere? Are we causing them to fear telling us these things or admitting these things? I just want to understand.
The conflict that is present, which I seem to notice happens often when things like this happen, is that some are saying he was bullied and others are saying he was never bullied. I saw the same thing happening with Ruth Ann Payton, the 12 year old girl who killed herself two weeks ago.
Are others just not willing to admit there was bullying? Are they afraid of being bullied themselves if they speak up? Or do they just not want to get involved?
The school here in Chetek where Payton attended says they have things in place to prevent and report bullying. But as teachers and counselors were meeting with the kids after Payton's death no one was saying anything about bullying, therefore making the school feel that bullying was not an issue. I really don't like to accuse or suggest that the school officials were not telling the truth, but we all know that bullying goes on everywhere. What I don't understand is why reports coming from outside the perimeter of the school grounds say bullying was definitely a part of this girls decision to end her life at such a young age.
My heart goes out to the families in Ohio who are having to deal with children who were injured yesterday, it goes out to everyone having to understand their feelings and fears. It especially goes out to the family who lost a child. No parent should have to suffer that. And my heart goes out to the family of the shooter and him. Obviously this boy, this child, was hurting in some way to make him feel the need to hurt and kill other kids. I cannot pretend to know or understand why. But it breaks my heart.
What are your thoughts on this tragedy? What are your thoughts on why kids don't want to admit that bullying is occurring? Are we as parents and educators, pastors dropping the ball somewhere? Are we causing them to fear telling us these things or admitting these things? I just want to understand.
Tuesday, February 21, 2012
Teacher Against Bullying
A teacher in New York was teaching her class about bullying and gave them the following exercise to perform. She had the children take a piece of paper and told them to crumple it up, stomp on it and really mess it up, but do not rip it. Then she had them unfold the paper, smooth it out and look at how scarred and dirty it was. She then told them to tell it they’re sorry. Now even though they said..................they were sorry and tried to fix the paper, she pointed out all the scars they left behind. And that those scars will never go away no matter how hard they tried to fix it. That is what happens when a child bullys another child, they may say they’re sorry but the scars are there forever. The looks on the faces of the children in the classroom told her the message hit home.
Monday, February 20, 2012
Taylor Swift
Anybody heard Taylor Swift's new song "Mean"
She wrote it because a critic was bullying her.
She wrote it because a critic was bullying her.
Student Takes On Bullying
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Friday, February 17, 2012
The Bully Tapes
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Monday, January 16, 2012
Power Point Presentation from October 2011
nBullies, Victims and Bystanders
David A. Levine
Leland Domann
nOur goals for today
are to…
are to…
nfacilitate the conversation about bullying
nexplore the role emotions play on aggressive behaviors
nreview the research on risk and resilience
nexplore empathy as a primary pro-social skill
npresent high-level facilitative responses
nWhat would you like to get out of today?
nIn terms of:
nKnowledge
nSkills
nPersonal growth
nKnowledge
nA working definition of bullying
nThe blueprint for emotional safety
nCreating a bully-free culture
nRisk and resilience
nBest practices for prevention and intervention
nCyber-bullying
nSkills
nHigh-level facilitative responses
nDecoding behaviors
nCounseling a bully and victim
nMeeting a child’s needs
nTeaching pro-social skills
nAs you were listening to my song,
nWhat thoughts, memories of feelings came up for you?
nPrevention defined
Prevention programs and activities are intentionally designed to help young people manage predictably difficult life situations.
Pro-active vs Reactive
Prevention vs Intervention
nBullying defined
A person is being bullied or victimized when he or she is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more persons
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Bullying information
CDC Youth Risk Survey, 2010
Bullying information
CDC Youth Risk Survey, 2010
nOver 75 % of students are subjected to some form of bullying or cyber bullying and experience some form of physical and/or emotional abuse
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n5% of high school students did not go to school because they felt unsafe at school or on the way to school
n16.2 % of students report being bullied on school property (NY State)
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nBullying information
nBoys are more likely than girls to bully others
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nThe most frequent bullying of boys is physical while girls are bullied more often verbally (exclusion, rumors, sexual harassment)
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nThe top five states in regards to reported incidents of bullying and cyber bullying are California, New York, Illinois, Pennsylvania, and Washington
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nEmotional imprints
nForever impact the way you interface with the world.
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nEmotional intelligence is the ability to manage your emotions (imprints) when under pressure.
nProtective factors
nExternal buffers and supports
nMicro-interactions
nBe clear with your expectations
nCreate the conditions (in your groups, classes, sports teams, homes)
nInfuse social skills into all you do
nAsk questions (dialogue-listen)
nProtective factors
nInternal-skill building
nPro-social skills
nTeach listening and make it a cultural practice
nThe listening wheel
nCommunity meeting
nFishbowl
nCooperative group training (name emotional intelligence)
nEmpathy consciousness
Building a cultural norm of empathy
teach it as a skill
model it as a practice
infuse it as a perspective marker
use it as a guiding principle
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Protective Factors
Protective Factors
nSocial skills
nPositive peer relationships
nProblem solving skills
nA sense of independence
nA sense of purpose
nParticipation and involvement
nSchool success
nA caring “non-judgmental” adult
nExposure to models and mentors
n Successful bully prevention/intervention approaches
nMindfulness/self-regulation
nPeer leadership
nAdvisory
nMicro-interactions
nClearly defined norms
nDialogue in meetings
nMoral dilemmas
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nHigh-level facilitative responses
1. Ask open-ended questions
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2. Clarify and summarize
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3. Reflect feelings…
nTo tolerate is to enable
nThe conflict cycle
Private logic
Stressful event
Feeling
Behavior
Response
nFeedback
To help the person learn and grow
Observational
what I heard
what I saw
What I need or feel
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